I think one of the most difficult teachings to live is loving the unlovable. I mean seriously, how the heck are we supposed to love the person who has raped us, belittled us, abused us, got rid of our beloved pet or has done anything else (big or small) that has left a scar on our hearts? And really, why would you even want to love them?
You’ve probably heard this before, but the reason you want to love them is so that you can be free of their power…or the power of the situation. It’s so you can feel whole.
This applies to the parts of yourself that you have trouble loving as well. Maybe it’s a habit, maybe you’re quick to anger, maybe you procrastinate, maybe it’s your cellulite….it’s time to start loving these aspects of yourself so that you can love yourself and feel whole.
Wholeness is truly what we’re looking for. Being whole is being connected to all aspects of ourselves, the Universe, and Divinity. When we feel whole, we are able to operate from our Truth…and man, that is a beautiful thing.
So here’s what I’m going to ask you to do if you feel you have the courage required to do it. I don’t want you to feel bad if you’re not ready to give this a try….just do it when you are.
I want you to pick a person, situation, or a part of you that you really, really have a hard time loving. Immerse yourself in the feeling of this person, situation, or part of you that you don’t love. Imagine whatever it is standing in front of you. If it’s not human, imagine what it would look like…give it a color, shape, size…whatever you need to do to see it in physical form.
Now, I want you to turn it into a small child, or a puppy, or a kitten, or anything that you simply cannot not love. Something that softens your heart. It’s still the same yucky thing underneath, but we’re cloaking in an image that’s easy to feel love and affection for. Now, embrace the child or puppy…hug tight. Hug it like it’s been hurt or abused and you want to give it as much love as you possibly can to make it feel better. Tell it it’s safe. Tell it you love it. Tell it that it’s ok, it doesn’t have to hurt anymore because you love it.
Keep it up until you start to feel a softening inside yourself. When you feel ready, start remembering that this beautiful child in front of you is that person, situation, or aspect of yourself that you couldn’t love before. This is what it started out as before it received false teachings, unawareness, and pain. It may have been a long time since it was in this form, but this is the original form.
Notice how much shifts and changes within you each time you do this exercise. For some things you’ll need to do often, for others it will only need to be done once.
If you really want to learn how to move on from the hurt, pain, and crap, *|FNAME|*, this is how you start.
I’d love to hear how you did with this, so please let me know.
And don’t forget to join our new free Facebook group, Spiritual Perfectionists Anonymous. It’s a great place to go to learn how to be okay with being a fallible human being. I hope to see you there.
Much love and abundant blessings,